Rejected Again: How to Trust the Process

We all know that rejection is huge part of pursuing a career in the arts or entertainment.  As artists, the reality is that we'll likely hear a million "no's" before we get a yes.  When you're passionate and open hearted, as most artists are, handling that much rejection can really test you.

If you've been at your career hustle long enough, I'm sure you've heard the term "trust the process" a time or two.  Although ideas like this are intended to encourage us when we're feeling defeated, it can be hard to understand what that phrase really means.  Keep reading to find out what it means to trust the process and how to handle all the rejection your career pursuit will throw your way.

First things first, trusting the process simply means to have blind faith that you'll end up where you've intended to go, or somewhere better.  It's understanding that somehow, no matter how long it takes, all things work out for your good.  

Trusting the process also means that while you whole heartedly believe that your dreams will come true, you also understand that you'll encounter some resistance and bumps in the road along the way.  When you're able to understand that trials will come while also firmly having faith that you'll make it, that's when you're trusting the process.  

It's learning to be okay with where you are and continuing to press forward anyways.

Now that you know what it means to trust the process, let's talk about how to handle all the rejection you'll face.

1.  Know that closed doors teach us how to appreciate the open ones.

If it were easy to realize a dream, more people would do it.  This is one of the main reasons people don't take the risk to make big things happen...because it's hard!  However, even though we're prepared to face rejection, it can still get us down.

Pick yourself back up by recognizing the purpose of a closed door.  When you've had enough doors slam in your face, you learn to truly appreciate when they open for you.  Rejection keeps you humble and hungry, which is a key to longevity in this business.

2.  Realize that closed doors lead us to the best path.

Every open door isn't always the best one for us, and when you're ready and hungry for work, it's harder to spot or even resist the wrong opportunities.  Would you rather regret having been involved in a project, or be thankful that you were kept from experiencing something that wasn't in your best interest?

Hind sight is 20/20, but take a moment to gain a little foresight on this one.  Closed doors are one of those blessings in disguise because they help illuminate the best and highest path for your life. 

3.  Understand that closed doors strengthen our resolve and character.

Know the saying "gold is tested by fire?" Or, think about how much pressure it takes for a diamond to form.  Anything worth having endures some sort of process before reaching it's full potential.

You and I, being far more valuable than both gold and diamonds, must also experience our own pressures to be able to live our dreams.  It takes us being pushed to our limit for us to know what we're really made of. So, understand that the rejection is also developing your character for the road ahead.

Here's the point:  Yes, rejection sucks, but it's a necessary part of the journey.  Know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you are beautifully and wonderfully made, and then learn to trust the process until you become all that you were created to be.


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Shaté L. Hayes

Creative strategist and storyteller, Shaté Hayes, is on a mission to help professionals everywhere feel a sense of purpose and pride in their careers. She spent over a decade in her first career as a professional dancer/choreographer watching stories come to life in powerful theater productions. As an edtech leader, she embedded storytelling into the career content and programs her team delivered.

Now, as a consultant and founder of Career Steward, Shaté crafts compelling stories and strategies for impact-driven leaders and orgs.

https://www.CareerSteward.co
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